A near death experience almost a year ago laid me out and made me reasses everything. I thought I had learned so much that I was wise and that I could find true love. I was really connected to buddhism for a while, it helped me so much. I decided to get a job and save up to get some security. What can I say? I lost my mojo, I lost my will to go on at points... I am not living the life I wish to live. At times I feel dissapointed that I am so dark, I should be rejoicing that I am still here, but I feel like a walking ghost. I am getting to serious, hybernating and hiding from the party. I am a painter but have no inspiration at the moment. I used to be the Life of the party so what happend? How can I get my spirit back? Now I have $ and want to move to start my new life, but I don't know where to go or what to do. Im getting pulled to various towns throught out the western states. Any recommendations, and has this every happend to any of you?
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Re: how do you follow an empty heart?
Sat, November 3, 2007 - 8:52 AMIt has happened to me.
I am coming out of it.
I listened and discussed on a few tribes. Please refer to my blog if it might help you. It is personalandintense.. lot of fear and confusion.
I suggest to go to a plapce which has water and trees. And the cultural mix which helps you feel good.
Seattle is a super experience to live in and learn from many people for alifetime or just a little few months. -
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Sun, November 4, 2007 - 8:55 AMof course these feelings are completely normal and i'm going through a similar situation. my only advice is to allow yourself to feel these true and real feelings and don't feel guilty for feeling differently...it might seem unfamiliar and rather disappointing to that "life of the party" but this is a part of YOU. Let yourself feel this way and forgive yourself because you are not doing ANYTHING wrong you're just going through a transition. New York welcomes you anytime! ;)
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Sun, November 4, 2007 - 11:30 AMThank you so much for the kind words and great advice. I think that you are dead on with the living amogst trees and water and a cuturally inspiring place.
Peace Malaika -
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Sun, November 25, 2007 - 8:39 AMhow are tings going?
I hope you have found some comfort in this advice.
All is good.
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Sun, November 18, 2007 - 7:03 PMInvest the money & leave it behind.Ttake a backpacking tour around the countries that have always drawn you and look for yourself. You may find that money and security have nothing to do with what you want. Yes, you will need them, but while you can, get out there- find you, and the rest will come - when you truly know what that is that you want to come.
Just a whim ;-)
btw...empty is not always a bad thing. To fill with clutter just to be full is not fulfilling.
It is clutter. And it is difficult to offload. Space is key to find yourself and you seem to have some space. Fill it with questions, and answers will come.
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Sun, November 25, 2007 - 4:13 AMJust go slowly towards the little things you do know of that bring you moments of peace and happiness.
it may not sound like much, however such things can be built upon and gather fullfilling momentum.
To answer your question. How do you fill an empty heart?
With small consistant acts of love.
One drop of water in a bucket may not seem like much yet left to constantly drip the bucket fills and when left to go on dripping...this same bucket can be used to help an entire garden flourish.
Such is life.
Allow yourself to complete small acts of love for your heart.
Take time to check in with your heart and listen to what it would like.
Perhaps different ways on different days.
Bless you Malaika
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Wed, December 12, 2007 - 2:18 PMI love you Tribees! Thanks for all your words of wisdom. I have to say I feel much better now, and yes like a bucket needs to be empty to be filled, so my heart is overflowing with love for the universe and existence and the gentle humm of the Tao. What can I say about this mystery of life but that I am so surprised with the suprising turns it is taking me in. I have been making some decisions that are clearing up alot of the confusion I had by floating in the unknown. I decided to stay with my family for the moment, work and finish school and to undergoe surgery and get this titanium hardware out of my arm that was put in a year ago after I was in a car accident in Thailand. I live in Orange County but left my heart in SF so for a while It was like my heart and body were in two different places and I felt that I was missing out on the "Family". I am finding happiness here and now, and am so thankful for my life and friends. Oh and my paintings are in full bloom, and I'm falling in Love! Wow, the ebb and flow certainly can seem drastic in the ocean of life but good folks like you are a great reminder of the protected liferaft that rests on top of the current. Thanks for the patience, support and faith! Much Love! Happy Holy Days. -
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Thu, December 20, 2007 - 8:25 PMKeep thankful for your life and friends...This a very humble thing to practice ......with consistancy, it can be a huge reward for the heart.
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Fri, December 21, 2007 - 6:30 AMI am so gla dto hear this.
I, too, made a decision to do something which finally cleared up soem things. I had to change that decision, bu t th eenergy sent in one way got me going and life has put me back on a wonderful road, not with a few challenges.
I am so glad to read of your happiness to day on Solstice.
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Sat, December 29, 2007 - 2:59 PMsometimes the body needs to heal the trauma later on.
a trauma counsellor can help with that in the future if you notice that it seems like there is some stuck energy from your physical wounds.
blessings on your journey.
i too have survived serious car accidents and am stronger for it now.
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Thu, February 28, 2008 - 7:27 PMCongratulations on the steps you are taking toward the light. What a miraculous change from the beginning of November to mid-December. I hope you are continuing your path towards wholeness again.
I agree with Cara, you created a major trauma that profoundly affected you on many levels. It will take time, lots of time, to sort it all out on the various levels. I see that you are a highly capable spirit, though, and have created a heroic adventure worthy of your gifts and your purpose this lifetime.
Cheers to you!
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Mon, December 31, 2007 - 2:02 PMI agree with a person below who suggested stuck energy might still be in your wounds - that said, however, It seems
that you are still processing what happened to you((hugs)). It sounds like a post-traumatic depression, which is more common than
may people realize, and of delayed onset, too. It's really UN-helpful when other people just tell you to just snap out of it because it's been
awhile since a significant experience, too. Really honor your process, and seek out peaceful natural places to be,
even if is for just an afternoon, whatever you can do right now if a longer period is not possible for you at this time - anything that helps you connect to your basic self which cannot be destroyed no matter what happens to us on the material plane. And don't make any major decisions right now - you're still healing. Lots of times, even after the physical manifestations of a major experience are past, it takes awhile to catch up on the unseen levels. If you can, a compassionate counselor/energy worker can be enormously helpful to help you through this transition. Or maybe a group setting of people who have been through similar experiences and feeling the same way. Getting the job was good - saving some money is good - you are creating on the material level should you wish to cut loose later and consider what you want to do next. When you get to the next part of your transition, likely the job will change, or disappear, leaving the way open for your next steps. You'll know you are moving along, too, when you are able to get back to your painting. This last I can relate to, because I personally went through a period of domestic upheaval that torpedoed my process, leaving me unable to paint for several years, and am now just getting back to it in the past year, due to a very happy and fortunate relocation back to San Francisco.
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Tue, April 15, 2008 - 2:07 PMThank you to all the kind hearts and loving words once again-gosh you're all so helpful. Three weeks ago I got the metal and screws out of my arm and am healing nicely. I can't tell you how wonderful it feels to have my arm back au natural. I have been doing a lot of meditation and painting, broke up with my boyfriend, quit my job, and these are all necessary for my transition into the next step. I did go to a Somatic Healer and she was incredible, guiding me through the recesses of my mind-the parts where I was to afraid to venture alone, helping me to release the trauma which I had stored on a cellular level. At one point it became extremely painful and emotional and then I felt release in a huge flood of peace. You are such a great Family, even if we are linked through cyber space I can feel the love. Happy Healing to all of you! xoxo -
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Sun, May 4, 2008 - 11:57 AMi am going to start seeing a healing touch practitioner on monday.
i hope that it will help as i still seem to be stuck since my last accident...
the worst thing is not being able to sleep - going on 6 months now.
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